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2 Ways to Live Life

Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”-Buddha

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2 Ways to Live Life   

With Expectation

  • The first approach is to work with a goal or desire in your mind. In this approach, your brain knows exactly what is the thing you are looking for, what do you really want, and collect all the resources which can help you to fulfill that desire.

 Without Expectation

  • The second approach is to work without any expectations. In this process, you don't feel any pleasure or pain because you don't have any desire.

 

Example

If you want an apple to eat (desire for Apple)  you will either plant a tree and water it daily hoping one day you will get an apple or you simply go the market and buy one.

No matter which approaches you to take will lead you towards your desire. But in the end, you either get an apple or you won't get one.

If you get one you feel tremendous pleasure and you enjoy it to the fullest but if you don't get one you feel the pain. You start feeling upset, tense, and depressed. (know more about emotions)

If you get orange instead of apple you won't be happy. It can't satisfy your hunger because your desire is for apple, not orange. 

But what if you do your work without expecting anything. You plant a tree and water it daily or you go to the market to buy something.

No matter you get an apple or not it won't bother you because you don't expect it. You don't have a desire to eat an apple.

If you get an apple you won't feel the excitement and if you get orange instead of apple you won't feel bad either. Because apple and orange both are the same for you now. It's just a mere medium to satisfy your hunger.


It's not about which way is right or wrong. It's up to you to choose.

You may think expectation hurts so the second approach is good (kind of spiritual). But in this era where we go to the temple just to ask God please do this or that for me, do you really think we can get rid of expectations.

And if you think the first one seems to practical, be ready for the negative emotions that you may feel when your desired thing will not full-field.


“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”     ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart


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Baat karne se hi baat banti he.

Jab tu saath tha teri keemat jana nahi humne. Ab jab tu sath nahi, tujhe anmol bana diya humne.             Aaj stories pe unki aakhen bhi num he, jo kavi tujhse aakhen churate the. Tweeter pe bade bade batain likhte hen, jo kavi tujhse baaten bhi nahi kiya karte the. Jab tu bolta raha humne tujhko ignore kar diya Ab jab tu khamosh he , humne teri khamoshi bhi padhna start kar diya.   Galti humari thi, jo humne tujhe samjha nahi . Kavi akele baith ke teri baatain suna nahi Jab puchna tha hume , humne tujhse pucha nahi Tu thik he ki nahi ye kavi jaanna chaha nahi. Shayad teri muskurahat ke nakab ko humne tera chehra samajh liya . Shayad teri fikar karne ko  humne koi boring sa kaam samajh liya . Chupane se chizen kavi thik nahi hoti he, Aur rone se tumhari izzat kavi kam nahi hoti he. Mat socho ese, ki tumhe koi judge karega. Tumhare galat ko sahi aur sahi ko galat bolega. Apne feelings ko bayan karne se hi duniya sunti he. Ki baat karne se hi baat banti he.